{"id":254,"date":"2011-11-22T11:21:30","date_gmt":"2011-11-22T16:21:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cah.ucf.edu\/imprint\/?p=254"},"modified":"2018-03-12T14:16:27","modified_gmt":"2018-03-12T18:16:27","slug":"someday-my-prince-will-come","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cah.ucf.edu\/imprint\/someday-my-prince-will-come\/","title":{"rendered":"Someday My Prince Will Come?"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Kristen Chavis<\/em><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m fifteen years old, and I\u2019m sitting next to my friend Kim in study hall. Since talking isn\u2019t allowed, we are forced to play a game that can be done with or without talking. We\u2019re playing M.A.S.H. The game where you plan who you\u2019ll marry, where you\u2019ll live, what you\u2019ll drive, how much money you\u2019ll make, and if you\u2019ll have kids or pets. I write down two things for each category, and Kim picks the third choice. By the end of the game, I find out that I\u2019m going to marry Anthony Edwards (a kid that has picked on me since the sixth grade)\u00a0 We\u2019ll live in Alabama, where we\u2019ll have ten kids and four dogs. But, hey, at least I get my dream car.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019m twenty-five now, and I\u2019ve begun to realize that girls start playing a version of \u201cM.A.S.H.\u201d at four years old and never grow out of it. We shape our entire lives down to the tiniest details, even the ones we have little control over. Ask any woman about the characteristics of her future husband, and I bet that she\u2019ll be able to rattle off at least five traits she\u2019ll want him to have. There\u2019s a pandemic spreading in our culture, which stems from the unrealistic expectations and absurd ideas of romance. Some women have the belief that the perfect man will come along, steal their hearts, and carry them off into the sunset. This is \u201cPrince Charming\u201d syndrome, or PCS. I surveyed four of my friends to see if my claim held any merit and I was met with some surprising results. I asked the girls, \u201cDo you believe that there\u2019s a \u201cperfect\u201d person for you?\u201d Both, Katie, and Jessica, are waiting for their handsome princes. However, Brittany, and Olivia, have given up hope.<\/p>\n

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How is Prince Charming Syndrome Spread?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Prince Charming Syndrome starts at a young age. The cycle begins when the little girl hears fairytale bedtime stories about princesses being rescued by handsome princes. By age fifteen, the girls are old enough to realize that they will not marry a prince and live happily ever after.<\/p>\n

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However, since the teenage years are full of angst about learning \u201cwho you are\u201d, you look to your peers and movies to develop standards for relationships. This continues inevitably.<\/p>\n

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I asked \u201cWhat are deal-breakers for you in a relationship?\u201d Jessica\u2019s deal-breakers included poor hygiene, copious amounts of apathy, and social conservatives. While Olivia lamented that her deal-breakers were guys making less than 50K a year, guys that are younger than her, or guys with kids or that are married\/ in committed relationships. \u201cHow much do romantic comedies or movies in general, influence your ideas of romance?\u201d Jessica and Olivia found that romantic comedies are unrealistic, therefore having no influence. Moreover, Brittany and Katie admit that while the movies are fictional and \u201cfantastical portrayals\u201d of real life, they still claimed that these films had some influence. Clearly, these women know that the romantic events in movies are not real and would never happen, yet they can\u2019t help but to let romantic comedies influence their ideas of romance.<\/p>\n

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How Are Women Influenced By Films?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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If everyone knows that romantic comedies are fictional, how are the movies able to influence their romantic notions? There is a famous theory by Jacques Lacan that can support this perfectly. Lucky for you, I will spare you the reading. Romantic comedies follow a simple formula that goes like this:<\/p>\n

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  1. Attractive guy meets girl in less than desirable circumstance.<\/li>\n
  2. Attractive guy likes girl.<\/li>\n
  3. Girl likes attractive guy, love ensues.<\/li>\n
  4. Guy screws up big time.<\/li>\n
  5. Girl breaks up with guy.<\/li>\n
  6. Guy does something unrealistically romantic to win girl back.<\/li>\n
  7. Guy gets girl from obscenely romantic gesture.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

     <\/p>\n

    If you notice, steps one through five are relatable to every woman. Because the situations are so realistic, women tend to identify with the main female character, thinking \u201cshe\u2019s like me\u201d. Though, they don\u2019t do this consciously; I would argue that this happens in the subconscious. By the time number six comes along, women aren\u2019t thinking about the improbability of the romantic gesture, they\u2019re convinced of its probability. So what\u2019s left is a herd of women, who are waiting for a man to make these gestures, and any man that doesn\u2019t live up to this expectation isn\u2019t the \u201cright\u201d guy.<\/p>\n

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    If you expect that you\u2019ll still have butterflies in your stomach after being married for fifty years, you\u2019ll be disappointed. The butterflies go away with the newness of the relationship, so the longer you\u2019re with someone; the less likely it will be that you\u2019ll get nervous around them. Yet, some women feel like their relationship is missing something because of this idea. The truth is that when standards are set too high, it hinders the ability to find love. I don\u2019t believe that there\u2019s a perfect person for me, however, I do feel that there has to be someone who is at least compatible with me. High expectations come from the fear of getting hurt, so we search for the \u201cperfect\u201d man.<\/p>\n

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    Perfection doesn\u2019t exist. We can continue to play \u201cM.A.S.H.\u201d until it turns out just right. In reality, you just have to jump in head first and not be afraid of getting your heart broken. But for me, I\u2019ll be kissing sharks instead of frogs to find my lover boy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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